Rethinking Religion and Its Relevance in the Now

Hope, is not something innate. At least, I don’t believe so. Not like love or fear, I don’t think that we have hope when we were born. I don’t think we are even capable of expecting something really. I mean, literally,  we can’t even see back then. Let alone to hope for something that we don’t understand yet.

We learn hope. By interacting with our surroundings, with the people around us, we learn this humane trait of hope. Be it from being introduced into this dream of being a fireman, astronaut or Richie rich. Or even from something as simple as getting a new bike, because you just got good scores in our school report. This notions of winning something that we set a target for, that created hope. We were trained to hope.

Back in 2012, I spent almost 3 weeks in Cambodia volunteering at an orphanage. It was a fairly normal experience, life changing of course, but for a voluntary mission, it was fairly regular. There, I had to paint a classroom, teach English, treat kids hairs for lice, nail bamboos to make a floor for a simple house, those sorts of things.

The kids was of course very grateful and charming. They were all really sweet and full of smiles, different from the kids here in Jakarta (you know what I mean, those little bastards have had it coming), and they were all really discipline in their way. They would always clean whatever they used, they would help each other out, they would finish their homework and they would pray.

Now, this particular orphanage is run by a christian organisation. The guy that brought me there, which was a really inspiring teacher of mine, is a christian priest.

In the end of our mission, they held a service for us and prayed not only for their own blessings, but also for ours, who volunteered there for a week or so. These orphans, who doesn’t have a family apart from each other looked really happy at that time. They played music, they danced, they joke around and most importantly they smiled. Not the kind of smile when somebody open the door for us, not even the kind of smile when you finally got that amazon package we were waiting for. But a real genuine one. A big happy face smile.

These kids, who were not born into a family. Who lived in a country, that (only just around 10 years before) was massacred, tortured and enslaved. These kids who are supposed to hate the world for the unfairness that they are facing. These kids that could never dream of having a happy meal, while on the other side of the world, that very food was being thrown away just because they already got the toys. These kids can genuinely smile.

But how can they smile with their predicament? How can they smile when I can’t even smile that way, and I have all the privileges in the world of being a normal kid.

I asked that question every day after I got home from that mission. Until one day it hit me. They had hope. Their religion gave them hope.

They don’t need money, or new bikes or anything to give them a sense of hope, because in their mind (and heart) they have their God to wait for. They have their heaven to be hoping for. And that may just be enough to keep them happy everyday, knowing that they belong to the same heaven as anyone who may have more things that they have.

I am not a religious person myself. I was quite an avid prayer because of my mom when I was a kid, but now I rarely go to church or even pray. I pray for my food because it has become an involuntary habit, but other than that, as far as your concern, I’m the devil.


But I am always fascinated by religion and how it affects people. Be it in a large group, small group or even in an individual level.

The laws of religion has rarely changed, but the way people interact with it, is very unique. I never think of religion as a problem or a solution. I always think of it as a way of life and a guidance to help you take your steps. You don’t necessarily need it, but some people prefer to have it anyway.

And for so long, this guidance has never change whatsoever. It has never made any attempt to adjust itself to be more relevant to the age that they are living in. That’s why you can always see conflicts like the blasphemy case in Jakarta every now and then. Be it with Gus Dur, Ahok or anyone that has not follow the guidance as is really. And that’s why (partly) we have terror groups and racism.

Yet, once or twice, you see figures like the Dalai Lama or Pope Francis saying something really far from the normal things that the guidance would say and it makes you wonder.

Just recently, Pope Francis hinted that He might be okay with married Priest in the catholic church. This is huge, considering that for the past 2000 years that this religion exist, this rule has always been there and is seen as one of the most important ones. Yet, with decreasing numbers of priests and followers, and with the changing nature of our society along with the ever-moving time, these supposedly stubborn guidance has showed its willingness to adapt. I mean the pope has an Instagram, if that’s not enough proof.

Does this mean religion is cool? I still don’t think so. I think religion is a personal experience, and whether we choose to follow a certain religion or not is totally an individual call. It has shown its ugly sides, yes, but it has also shown its willingness to adapt and to be more than just an archaic novelty from the past. It is with no doubt an important part for a lot of people’s life, and a source of annoyance for many others. But I think religion serves a certain purpose in life, and while its function might not be the same along the time, I think it is wrong to disregard it entirely.

For more than 2000 years, we’ve gotten used to a certain role of religion, when I think that role is overdue for a change. Its governance was a fit for the roman empire, but its old value needs to be adapted into a more open value that our society have already attain. Otherwise, the hope that a lot of people have, will only turn into terror, hatred and fear.

Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind – AE


On religion and double standards

Last week, BBC has posted an article briefly discussing the Hijab/Miniskirt battle, which apparently has gained traction in Europe. Meanwhile, the Vatican has expressed its strong disagreement towards Ireland’s decision to acknowledge same sex marriage on 22nd of May this year. Two (frankly quite conservative) arguments against the ever-increasing freedom in a contemporary society, in which God’s existence have become an increasingly relevant question and less offensive.

Without trying to be condescending to all of you out there that have faith, I think a conversation about this should not be treated with hot-headed fanaticism anymore, and we should approach this with an open mind.


Richard Dawkins, the most hated person by the catholic society, made a very good point on February during his interview in BBC’s Newsnight program. He argued that every person has the right to believe his or her own beliefs whatever it may be. Be it Muslim, Catholic, Buddhist, or the Martian. However, it is not in anybody’s place to force others to believe in their value, let alone religion.

A point well made by somebody who is an open atheist (quite surprising since other atheists in the Internet are bunch of narcissistic condescending group of fart heads).

It is one thing to disagree with one’s opinion because they recognise the different rationale behind it, but to disagree completely and to not wanting to even glance at the other side’s opinion is frankly ridiculous.

The Pope is said to have no opinion on the same sex marriage (or any other social issues as far as he’s concerned) because apparently he refuses to watch television. Granted that he may gather other information from papers or his colleague, but we cannot ignore the fact that he consciously block one of the major pathway for information and other opinion to ever enter his conscience at all.

It’s like you’re making a case against the republican for climate change and finding out that they hasn’t even read a single report on the issue. Oh by the way, they actually read those at least, although they choose to ignore it all. But that’s a different case.

Sadly, we should remember that the Pope oversees an organisation that mostly constructed of corrupt priests and paedophile ass heads. Frankly, if the same sex marriage includes an age limit of 10, I think the Vatican won’t disagree so much.

Anyway, back to more important stuff, what is even more head scratching is that the pope actually (somehow) have some power over the many global issues. He is the only person, along with Dalaj Lama that can actually just drop by DC one day and ask Obama to erase abortion law, make the government actually think about it, and save the life of those thousands, if not millions of pregnant teenager with shady future.

The power imbalance is so huge that other religion is seen as just a tiny dot in the word cloud of humanity, and when a religion gets big enough, it is condemned as terrorism.

It shouldn’t that way though isn’t it?

Humanity’s social progress towards understanding itself and its role in the universe should not be halt by a belief, value, or opinion just because they arrived first don’t you think? Especially when legit questions like Stephen Hawking’s questions regarding the very nature of our existence. Don’t we all want to know? And by knowing, I mean something other than the one written in a thousand year old book by I have no idea who, maybe the George R.R. Martin of that period.

I mean dude, are you seriously going to believe a book that was written just few thousand years ago while the age of the earth itself has reached more than 4.54 Billion years. That number is four and a half times more than Michael Jordan’s net worth. And we all know how rich he is. Kanye, by the way. Imagine how much stuff you can buy with that kind of money, now convert it into time, and imagine how many episodes of Friends you can watch in those years. Oh, that’s 119390332200000 episodes by the way.

Yet the opinion proportion is so imbalance in favour in this ridiculousness just because we came across that point first. I am not saying that we should despise that point of view entirely, there may be some merit in catholic’s or Muslim’s arguments. But so does in any other arguments. I mean we decided that the earth was not flat after being open to new idea after all right? And look where it has brought us! the moon dude! Literally!

All that I’m saying, on top of my ridicule and mockery, is that we should at least hear out the other side’s argument and not force other people to administer what we belief. I do believe in some of Catholic’s and Muslim’s value towards life, and some of the points are even better than great. But now, let’s put an end to the era of fanaticism and stubbornness and starts open our hearts and brains out to other’s point of view.

“So I say to you, Ask and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened for you.” – Jesus (I am not even kidding)