The Fear and Love Turbulence

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
– John Lennon


He died in December 1980, killed by a security guard

its weird how we can hate someone

how we can produce this sense of disgust and anger in our heart and let it command your brain to make negative association with it

As John said, there are two basic motivating forces



i came into this forces few years ago, i think i was just talking with my sister in her room when i snoop around her stuff and found this book

i think it was the art of happiness from Tenzin Gyatzo or something like that

it doesn’t really matter

we ended up talking about these forces

about this love and fear idea

she then lectured me about life based on this idea

as any older sister would do

i remember at that time i wasn’t really paying attention at our conversation

this idea, this quotation, this relationship between fear and love

it stuck on my mind

it was that OH moment when you realise something big

really big

it was like i was given the passcode to understand human behaviour

its like when you play pokemon and you have an infinite master ball, or your pokedex is already completed

it all kind of make sense, why we ostracise, why we are shy, why we get married, why we run, why we laugh

we avoid something we don’t know

we are afraid of it, we don’t want to risk ourselves into an unfamiliar places

we tend to hide behind our fear

on the other hand we get passionate about stuffs

it excites every single part of our nerves

it burry us in the comfort and warmth of love

as ironic as it is John’s death show us how this two forces interact with each other

how what John do deliver a threat for Chapman

how Chapman love of something turned into fear of losing it

how his fear turn him into a person who decided to shoot John

I truly believed that no one is born evil

that a person can kill somebody because he is killer

because they are sick

because they love to do it

No baby will hit you in the face for fun

not if you threaten them

or if their environment teach them to do so

These murders, these bombings, these hatred

its all a good example how love can turn into fear

and how fear can make people do horrible stuffs

i guess there are a reason why He created regret

but i think it is more important to understand that sometimes even we can’t understand our own feelings

sometimes our heart or even brain are distorted

distorted by many factors that can blur the line between love and fear

It is when we can understand the factors that drive each and every one of our behaviour is when we can truly start to think about peace


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